“I love my natural hair because it is a gift that we black women have” -Lola Atobatele



Posted in Haircare, Life

A girl and her Hairย 

This is a story of acceptance a journey of discovery. 

Recently there has been a movement geared towards women of African descent not using relaxers to alter their natural texture.

 Some people are all for it, jumping on the band wagon, and some people not on board because they say it’s too stressful. 

I don’t use relaxers on my hair anymore. Here’s why(the long version) .

I am a very self conscious person, I worry about what people think of me a lot, I mean it’s getting better now but it used to be way worse before. 

I am shy because I never got to interact with my peers on time. I had a very accelerated education I was 9 years old in my first year of secondary school, for a girl who spent most of her time with her younger siblings and didn’t play with other children alot it was difficult.

I was always the youngest in my class, I remember in Jss3, I preferred to hang out with Jss1 students because they were my age. My own class mates were interested in boys, tights and periods,me,i just wanted to play ‘Catcher’.

I used to think I was very ugly,i hated my nose and it wasn’t until 2008 that I finally said hmm maybe this Ada girl is fine small sha (side note: one of the boys in my Jss classes said I was one of the finest girls in the class ๐Ÿ™Œ ,but let’s not focus on that). 

I spent most of my time trying to fit in and trying to make sure I was deemed mature, so they could involve me and tell me things and not just be the smart, tinny gbeku, glasses girl. If I could tell my past self anything it would be to tell anyone who called me childish to shove off because I was still a child. 

I am almost ashamed to say this but i didn’t know that not relaxing your hair was an option, I thought leaving your natural hair was something that only deeper life people did because they were weird.

The person who inspired me was  a friend that did her big chop and I really loved her hair and by that time I was already frustrated with my hair’s problems. I was a limp lifeless thing that I hated. 

I transitioned, I was afraid of looking strange but I kept my head high and did it, when my hair came in, I was Sooooooo happy I had weight, it felt healthy and my afro was one in town ๐Ÿ˜.

I have come a long way from the unsure, insecure and immature girl who prayed to God that people would like her and prepared conversation in her head for whatever new school (I went to 4 secondary schools) ,she was going to. 

I believe my embracing my natural hair is a biiiig part of it. I am not saying I am completely there yet but I am taking GIANT steps.

I am writing this because I started a new hair regimen on November 30, for a 3 month trial period and I was just reminiscing on how far I have come. I really thank God for that. ๐Ÿ‘‹

Posted in DIY, Haircare

Hi guys, welcome to part 2 of our epic journey to make coconut oil, so we don’t have to buy it because we are smart ๐Ÿ™‹. โ€‹

I realized something, on my journey to make the oil, I got 3 other products ,which is amazing and I will highlight them as we go on. 

So here are the rest of the steps please enjoy. 

Step 6:Blend the chopped coconut flesh. 

Here you have to eyeball things a little, most likely the coconut will not blend on its own so you have to add water. 

Make sure you don’t add too much water to the coconut shavings so when you blend it, you will get a goopy mess not a watery one.

Step 7:Sieve the results from step 6.

For me this was the fun part, you can use whatever you want as far as it can sieve things, me I used a white handkerchief, which I place over my bowl, poured the coconut goop over it and squeezed the handkerchief  with my hands until all the water came out, this is the first product :COCONUT MILK. 

Coconut Milk

Step 8:Refrigerate the coconut milk for 24 hours. 

This part also requires discretion, some sites recommended as little as 5 hours but I preferred the 24 hour one so that it could separate properly.

Now for the sad part, some sites recommended leaving the coconut milk in the fridge and some said leave out in the open so I divided my coconut milk into 2 and put one in the fridge and one in my room. 

Needless to say one did not go well, the one in my room fermented and I had to throw it away ๐Ÿ˜ญ, I shed a few tears. 

Which means I now had only about half of my coconut milk to work with in the end affected the amount of oil I got. 

Step 9:Separate the coconut butter from the coconut water(?).

Now after 24 hours, you will see a top layers of pure white and a buttom almost colorless layer. The top layer is the second product :COCONUT BUTTER. 

Coconut Butter

The lower layer is the third product :COCONUT WATER (I don’t know the name,  I am guessing).

Step 10: Heat the butter to get your OIL.

Now the coup de gras, take the coconut butter, and get yourself a pot, put it on low heat and start frying the butter while stirring it continuously.

I fried the one in the picture below for about an hour. Fry until you can see small brown ball like residue(this stuff is edible, I don’t know what it is sha).

Separate your oil into a container, don’t cover it until it cools down completely though.

So this is my final product, bear in mind that this is from less than half of my coconut milk,  so if you make yours you will get at least twice this.

I really think that the whole experience was worth it and I will be making another batch soon,now that I am wiser. 

Any questions you have please ask in the comments and I shall answer.๐Ÿ‘‹ 

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Sooooooo, the thing is I love reading DIYs and I especially love telling myself that I will do one of them. Anyway, this week I decided to start a new hair regimen (more on that another time), and naturally,  I needed oils and they don’t come cheap.

Castor oil has burnt a hole through my very shallow pockets  ๐Ÿ˜ข but thank God for being a Christian because olive oil is never scarce over here ๐Ÿ˜. 

Aryan oil is super expensive and difficult to find, so I settle for coconut oil because let’s be honest it’s the happening oil now.

Then I said ok let me buy some but I told myself, I said self; this coconut oil thing is makeable, so just try and do it besides you only need coconuts, so myself said ok so here it is.

I guarantee that all the information presented here is 110% real and so are the injuries (I am not a very careful person ๐Ÿ˜– ).

Step 1:Buy coconuts(Obviously)

Since this was my first time I decided to use only 3 coconuts and not overwhelm myself.Use ripe coconuts only.


Step 2:Break the shell of said coconuts.

This should be done outside as the shell is hard and small pieces can cause injuries if you step on them. I recommend using a small cutlass to bash the coconut open (or you can slam it on a concrete floor, whatever works for you, I don’t judge).

Step 3:Remove the flesh of the coconut.

This is the difficult part, I recommend using a blunt knife, start from the edges and gently push the flesh of the coconut away from the shell. Please be extremely careful, this was the site of my first injury.

Step 4:Wash the coconut flesh.

If you took my advice and broke the shell outside you probably have some dirt on the flesh of your coconut, not to worry just rinse it up and it’s as good as new.


Step 5:Grate/Chop the coconut flesh into bits.

Okay, now if removing the coconut flesh was difficult, this part was exhausting. First of all some people use knives to chop their coconuts in bits but I found that when I did that it came out uneven and I looked like it would take forever, plus I was really worried that the large and hard coconuts will destroy my blender.


When I used the grater on the other hand everything was smoother and it took waaaaaay less time,but my arm still hurt after a while sha and I was sweaty ๐Ÿ™‡. WARNING : Be careful with the grater this was the site of my last 3 injuries.

So, I think I will stop here for now. Tomorrow, I shall continue my epic tale because my hand hurts from all the injuries and typing. ๐Ÿ‘‹